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Spirit is doing better. I may swim today. All pups in all litters gained really well. I felt guilty not rushing to weigh the little one and I won't mention her after this. It seems someone doesn't appreciate it. I got a message from someone on our waiting list saying my video and posts were self serving and I need to stop being personal as people come to see positive messages not what I post and this really capped their pleasure of our site. I read that last night deep in hurt and went wow. I am not sure you want a puppy of ours. We have relationships with people that have our dogs as we love to see them.
On that note, if I offended you by sharing with you - I am sorry. I tend to put it all out there and this was a hard journey for me. Intellectually I know about life cycles but when you nurture, and are responsible for a being, I do not know how to just feel detached. I love the pups. I love the dogs. I feel guilty no longer being responsible for her and not going from 7am till 11pm at night non stop.
So last night I didn't need that note - did it make you feel better to attack me? I hope for you it was just a bad day too. We will go back to acting as if she didn't exist, I suppose.
Darlah
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As another on your waitlist, I thank you for sharing the joy and the sadness. My heart broke for you and it was clear how much you adore your dogs. I wish you so much peace during this time. I'm so sorry someone felt it was appropriate to email you that.
I'm on your waitlist and am glad you share what you do. It shows how much you love them and how much you care about every single dog. Please keep sharing as you have been honest and it brings me joy. So sorry for your loss and give your pups a snuggle for me
Darlah,
After many difficult days, I hope you were able to get some rest last night.
I would like to thank you for sharing your innermost feelings about LiL One’s passing. This tells me, and those of us who have not yet met you personally, the depth of your commitment, caring and the love you have for these tiny beings.
I am old enough to realize that some choose to grieve in silence; we are all different and deal with losses in our own way.
I apologize for rambling on, I just didn’t know how to more succinctly tell you that you truly helped me through a very sad number of days.
I hope you get a chance to have a swim today.
Sincerely,
Susan
P.S. My husband and I are also on your waiting list❤️
Susan & Dan
In the words of the great Taylor Swift, "Shake it off!" We are with you through the ups and downs. As any owner of a pup knows, you must be ready for them. You and Nathan have supported us when Meadow needed you. And we support you the same!
How awful for you Darlah! This person doesn't understand what a supportive community you and Nathan have created for the Talemaker family, and how we share our experiences, both happy and sad.
I'm so sorry you received that message. We appreciate you taking us on your journey with the pups with you and grieve the little ones loss as well. Take care.
I am so sorry that the wee one passed. I just read the blogs and feel very sad for the Moms and for your family. I appreciate your honestly and ability to share your experiences on your blog, even though they are so personal, it allows us as owners of Talemakers pups to know your depth of experience and commitment of breeding and living with Havanese dogs, and knowing that they are family members to you and your family. I am sorry that you had to both feel sorrow, share it, and be internet shamed about it. I for one, am grateful for all that you do
Incredibly sorry you got that email. Having an animal in the household is such a life changing experience, your life is never the same again. And with life comes ultimately an end to life, their lives are so much shorter than ours and owners must understand that. Illness, accidents, and old age all will come into their lives, they best understand that now. So if anything, that was a headsup for all, treasure each moment with them, I sure do.
If they don't have empathy for you, they might not have some for a dog.
I’m really wondering about all the ugliness in the world lately. It is enough to make you depressed. Thankfully, I have a Hav to cuddle with and make it better. It’s your blog, Darlah. Write what you want. If they don’t like it, then don’t read it. There’s a popular thread these days that asks AITA? (Look it up) No, you are NTA. They are. And I’m with Dorothy. I do not think I would let one of those pure, joyous souls in the form of your pups go with someone who thinks it’s okay to kick someone while they are down-no matter how crappy a day they did or didn’t have. Whoever they are-do better, be better.
I'm so sorry you had to experience such negativity. I agree with Dorothy, I would be concerned about how such a person would care for a dog and I wouldn't want to entrust them with a puppy that you have raised with so much love and care.
Losing a pet at any age is difficult but also part of life., unfortunately. Your sharing with us is so special and educational - letting us know how difficult it is to lose a young puppy. This is a lesson like others you post online and share with us - opening your heart and soul for those of us waiting for one of your pups and to join your extended family. Anyone not wanting to know the highs and lows should not read. We appreciate all you do for the dogs, puppies and us, your readers!!
Darlah I have two dogs from Talemaker.as you of course know. Why two because of your love and caring of all the dogs in your care. It made us know that our second dog would be a talemaker dog even if I had to wait two years. . How awful of anyone to criticize your warmth and love of each and every puppy. You are a very special person and your continued care after giving us a puppy has been so very wonderful. My two, almost 8 and 2 go crazy when i bring them to your house for a visit and/or a groom. This potential family does not deserve a Talemaker pup. And I would be concerned about how they would care for our beloved dogs. You don’t and should not have to apologize for the way you care or the way you explain what they do each day. That is what I look forward to in my day even though I myself am not getting a pup right now I love watching your videos. Darlah you and Nathan, who I should say is like a dog whisperer and truly loved and loving to ALL our dogs, should be proud of everything you do. I want to thank you for everything you do and how much everyone in your house does for my crew.